Separation anxiety is a normal part of your little one’s development, typically emerging around 8 to 18 months of age. As children grow and become more aware of their surroundings, they may experience distress when separated from you (even when you are close by but out of sight 🤪).
Common triggers include:
- Changes in routine: Starting day care.
- Family transitions: Moving to a new home or a parent's return to work
- Developmental milestones: Weaning or teething.
- Illness or fatigue: Being unwell can heighten anxiety.
Practical Strategies to Alleviate Separation Anxiety
1. Establish Predictable Routines
Children find comfort in consistency. Maintaining regular schedules for meals, naps, and bedtime can provide a sense of security.
2. Introduce Transitional Objects
A comfort item, such as a favourite toy or blanket, can serve as a reassuring presence in your absence. These objects, known as transitional objects, help children feel connected to you even when apart.
3. Practice Short Separations
Gradually increasing the duration of separations can help children build confidence. Start with brief periods apart and slowly extend the time as your child becomes more comfortable.
4. Create a Goodbye Ritual
Developing a consistent and positive farewell routine can ease the transition. This might include a special cuddle or a reassuring phrase.
5. Stay Calm and Confident
Children often mirror their parents' emotions. Demonstrating calmness and confidence during departures can reassure your child that everything is okay.
6. Encourage Independence
Fostering independence through play and allowing your child to make choices can build self-confidence and reduce anxiety.
Need Support with Disrupted Sleep by Separation Anxiety?
It's common for separation anxiety to affect your little one’s sleep—bedtime battles, increased night waking, or difficulty settling without you can all stem from this phase. The good news? You're not alone, and you don’t have to navigate it solo.
✨ Book a 1:1 Sleep Consult to get personalised support that’s gentle, and tailored to your child’s developmental stage to help your little one (and you!) feel more confident, secure, and well-rested.
